Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role - Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT

Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role

By Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT

  • Release Date: 2020-08-18
  • Genre: Parenting
Score: 4.5
From 5 Ratings


Healing and recovery can begin when our pain is acknowledged and validated...

Were you repeatedly bullied, shamed, blamed, or rejected by a parent, sibling, or other relative growing up or as an adult? Have you felt that your concerns about how certain family members were treating you were invalidated or dismissed, perhaps even by helping professionals or friends you counted on to understand?

Summary: Rebecca C. Mandeville is an internationally recognized Family Systems expert, trauma-informed Psychotherapist and Recovery Coach, and Educator who coined the term 'Family Scapegoating Abuse' (FSA) as part of her pioneering research on family scapegoating dynamics and dysfunctional family systems. In 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', she explores the roots of family scapegoating and how the scapegoated adult survivor can free themselves from painful 'false family narratives' and become the author of their own lives. 

In this comprehensive introductory guide, the author clearly identifies scapegoating as a form of psycho-emotional abuse while providing a means of understanding why dysfunctional families 'reject, shame, and blame' one of their own. Via psycho-education, self-assessment tools, and practical steps and strategies, the abusive and traumatizing aspects of family scapegoating are clearly established while ways to dis-identify and recover from the 'family scapegoat' narrative are explored. 'Links of Interest' for further reading and education are included within each chapter and in the book's 'Afterword' and 'Resource' section.

In these pages you'll discover:

- How to recognize and identify family scapegoating abuse (FSA) signs and symptoms
- Why scapegoated individuals have difficulty finding help
- How complex trauma (C-PTSD), betrayal trauma, and 'toxic shame' impede FSA recovery
- Why the family 'Empath' can end up scapegoated
- How to establish boundaries if your trauma response is 'fawning'
- How to recover and realign with your 'true self'

This life is the only one you'll have, and your story is precious and unique. If you're struggling to understand family scapegoat dynamics and want to recover and reclaim your 'true self' identity, this book's for you.

*FSA Self-Assessment is included but should not be used for diagnostic purposes. 

**Clinicians and Coaches may also find this introductory book helpful. Please read the 'Afterword' for more information and resources.

Editorial Reviews

"This much-needed work by Rebecca C. Mandeville provides a comprehensive introduction to the subject of Family Scapegoating and serves as a starting point for survivor awareness and further research for professionals if they want to begin filling in the gaps for this misunderstood and underserved community.  The author also offers steps to healing with a great measure of compassion."

- Lisa Marie Campagnoli, CRTC, RYT-200, Certified Trauma Recovery Coach 

"A much needed adjunct to the Family Systems model. Recommended for professional and laypeople." 

-Shellie Krick, MSW

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